Do your kids do chores around the house?. It sometimes feels like a never-ending cycle of trying to get your kids to do their jobs, nagging constantly & then just giving up & doing it yourself.
Is it really worth all the angst & anxiety caused by the constant arguments back & forth?. I think it is.
As anyone who is part of a big family knows, the amount of housework that needs to be done just to keep abreast of everything is extraordinary.
2 loads of washing a day, many many dishes, daily vacuuming (thanks to children who spill more food on the floor than they get in their mouths!) mopping, ironing, making beds, cooking, school lunches & the list goes on. This is why having a chore system for the little ones at home will make your life a lot easier.
Step #1: Establish Your Family Chores Schedule
This is so important and is were many moms fail because remember kids are little and they need to have consistency in their lives in order for something to stick. That being said choose a schedule that works for everyone and make sure you stick to it as much as you can.
Have expectations as to when the chores are to be completed. I have printable you can grab yours here. Which I have pinned to my refrigerator and my daughter does really good with that. She looks at the date and then looks at the chore list and knows what she has to do many times without asking (what a relief that is).
Step #2: Chore Assignment System
If you don’t want to be working around the clock the best thing to do is assign chores and responsibilities around the house.
How to Choose Chores for Your Kids
Since you are going through the hassle of teaching your kids how to do an assigned task then you to realized which task can be assigned to which child.
- Teaching your child how to master a skill: we moms are called to teach and embrace our children, just think about it you are building an independent individual. Teach them to take their time doing something and get it right than doing it fast and making a mess. Trust me on this one I’ve been before.
- You are teaching your child how to work through a challenge: chores go well beyond just completing a task. You are challenging their little brains to do and master a skill they have never done before. That being said don’t expect perfection the first time around, second or third for that matter.
- Teaching your child how to be responsible for themselves: assigning chores means delegating responsibility (something off your plate for sure) kids learn to be responsible and accountable which is, in my opinion, one of the most important skills in this Millenium. I’ve been teaching my daughter how to take care of her own room and make sure is clean all the time. Sometimes I am even ashamed of myself because her rooms look a lot better than mines.
- Teaching your child how to be a team player: since family is a big team guess what?? they have to play by the rules and participate like everyone else. Make sure you also assign cleaning the living room or kitchen where everybody sits and share beautiful family moments.
The Era We Are Living In: Entitlement
We are in the age of entitlement, the world owes a favor to a lot of people, when in fact it does not. I sometimes think kids are hard wired to default to bad behavior. Let’s face it, they can be selfish egocentric little creatures but that doesn’t mean we love them any less.
I don’t want my kids growing up ‘entitled’ & unappreciative of what they have. Everything single present that is bought in my house has been earned by them, my husband and I make sure they are aware of the reason they are getting the present for this could be good grades, behavior etc.
I want my kids to learn that unfortunately, not everyone has a nice warm bed to sleep in every night, food to eat, somewhere to bathe or the safety of a roof over their head. This is crucial and a lesson that must be learned to earlier the better.
I spoke to my husband about this & we decided a reward chart was the way to go. Being highly strung, a worrier & an over-thinker, I decided to do some research on what would work best.
Creating a System that Works For the Family
In the past, we had tried great big colorful charts with the kids favorite characters on them & also a pirate-themed chart but the novelty soon wore off & we were back to where we started. The kids not doing their chores & me yelling at them in frustration.
I wanted to counteract this problem for the long term so I decided to create my own charts. Get access here.
Chart #1 Chore List: is a list of relevant chores depending on the age of the child. That way there is no arguing or no ‘mom I can’t sweep the floor’ etc. If it’s on the list, they should be able to do it. (with the exception of children who may have an intellectual or physical disability).
Chart #2 Weekly Chore Chart: This is a template that you can fill in with your child so they are involved in the process.
We use one chart for each child & we decide what the weekly chores will be & the kids write them up on the template whilst referring to the ‘Chore List’. We allocate a certain amount of points per Chore & when they reach a target, for example, 50 points, they are rewarded.
Chart #3 Homework Chart: If your kids are not in school yet then this will come handy and even if they are this chart is a useful tool. This chart can be completed on Sunday or Monday and they will have the expectation of what is to be accomplished by them.
Chart #4 Reading chart: I love this reading chart because it helps the kids learn to read early on. How we use this chart is that we pick the books to be read for the whole week and then when its time for bed we read them together. This enriches their brain and also creates beautiful memories because you, moms are reading to them.
Chart #5 Weekly Planning: This one is a given and I make sure they complete this one by themselves supervised by me. This one shows them independence and also they are aware that I am there to watch over them if they are to need any help.
I have found this method works so much better than any of the others we have tried in the past because we involve the kids in the process & they love filling out their forms.
Comment and let me know how are you getting the kids to do their chores around the house?