Having children is one of the most seismic changes you can make in your life. Whatever you thought you knew before goes out of the window, and your world turns on its axis to reorient itself around the needs of this new little human.
It’s an experience that, though usually joyful, can also be incredibly challenging, intimidating and overwhelming.
The shellshock of a baby arriving and blowing apart the life you used to know can be unlike anything a new mother will have experienced before.
If you have a friend who is going through this life altering transition, it can be difficult to know exactly how best to support them – whether or not you’ve been there yourself.
As every baby and every mother is different, you have to rely on your knowledge of that person, their character and what they’ve told you about their experience so far – but there are some useful pointers to help you to help them.
Always Bring Food
The single most thing likely to drop when coping with the merry chaos of a newborn, who turns day into night and vice versa, is missed meals.
At a time when your friend’s body is trying to cope with the huge recovery process after giving birth on precisely zero sleep, she should be getting quality nutrients – but it’s the first thing that goes.
Low energy levels and lack of time lead to takeaways and a beige diet of toast and cake, when actually more substantial nourishment is desperately needed.
So, food is always much more welcome and practical than yet another bunch of flowers that she needs to find a vase for and water- one more thing to be kept alive may be beyond her endurance at this point.
When supplying food, it’s better to use disposable food containers, so you’re not inadvertently providing the obligation to wash and return things as well.
Or better still, find some slow cooker recipes, batch-make them in portioned freezer bags, and send them round with a slow cooker as a gift – it could well be a lifesaver.
Don’t Forget Her As A Person
In all of the fuss about this wonderful new little person, the avalanche of teddies and receiving blankets, don’t forget your friend as a person.
Having your first child can be quite a dehumanising experience in some ways, and it’s not uncommon for new mums to feel that they’ve lost their sense of identity.
Remember to support them by also asking how they are doing – mentally and physically.
Take into account her personal taste when you are sourcing gifts for the baby, whether it’s newborn gift sets that are a cut above style-wise from https://oeteo.com.au/ or finding a personalised item that is a great keepsake.
If you can, why not get a little something for mum too – a facial, some organic bodycare products that she can use on herself or baby, or even just the gift of offering to hold and entertain the baby for half an hour so that she can have a much-needed relaxing bath can all be enormously appreciated.
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